I have recently learned that real love is never black and white. It never feels truly right or wrong. Maybe it feels right in the beginning, but lasting relationships take effort and honesty. You will be challenged and tempted, but is something in the moment worth it to lose something you’ve worked hard for?
In my case, it wasn’t. There have been times when I have felt whole heartedly and completely head-over-heels in love and other times I have been so annoyed. It’s never effortless. I need to work on putting more effort in and appreciation. Often times I have taken my relationship for granted, and overlooked it. I need to focus on the little things. It’s never going to be easy, and the honeymoon stage ends. The important thing is falling in love all over again. I have come to realize what I would miss. You know you have found something special when you realize that this person is not only your boyfriend/girlfriend but also one of your best friends - a confidante. Someone that listens to you, comforts you, and remembers what you like.
Lately I have also been thinking about friendship. What truly matters is lasting relationships. Quality over quantity. I would prefer a handful of best friends over many acquaintances and fair-weather friends. I am so lucky to have these people in my life - especially my best friend and my mother. I don’t know what I would do without them.
Sorry about this random blurb. I just had a crummy start to my day and I’m trying to turn it around by counting my blessings instead of getting upset over things that I cannot change.
“I thought i knew what love was a long time ago but it wasn’t real. I found out what it really is now. To love and to be loved in return is the best feeling. Someone that treated you so terribly does not truly madly deeply love you. Someday we will have this talk again and you will be with someone who loves you no matter what, closeted or out, and always make you feel secure in your relationship not on edge or worried. I know it will happen. You just have to be strong and believe. Work on making yourself better and cutting out any negativity that will bring you down.”
said this to one of my best friends today
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